Wilfred E Calmas MBA Ph.D

Parent Coach

Chestnut Hill, MA

Case Study: A father is aggravated when seeing his twelve year old sun playing compute games. He chose to say "put the game away and go do your homework". This demand created tension and did nothing to enhance the father-son relationship. Therefore, the wrong "Key" was used. What might be the right "Key" ? The father could ask positive questions: When are you planning to do your homework?, How much homework do you have? How much time will it take? Can I be of help?

Key Concept of Communication

Children are not born to cooperate with their parents, it takes years to teach. It is essential that parents learn how to achieve cooperation. A dictatorial communication style - stop your fighting, go to bed, give me a kiss, don't be late for supper, etc. comes easy but often leads to rebellious behavior. The "Key" communication concept is simple. My back and front door keys look alike, both fit into the cylinder but only one key allows me to achieve my objective - entering my home. I propose that by using the correct words which symbolically represents the "Key" you will be successful in developing cooperative relationships with your children.